Co-Parenting Successfully: Tips for Divorced Parents

When parents separate, they must learn how to care for the needs of their child outside of a relationship with each other. This means putting the needs of your child above any issues with your former spouse.

In some instances, a separated couple may be able to agree on a parenting plan, while others may need the help of the court. A parenting plan is important to give a child a sense of stability following a divorce.

If you have recently separated from your spouse, our legal team would like to provide tips for successful co-parenting and how a parenting plan can assist in the process.

What is Co-Parenting?

Co-parenting involves both parents putting aside their differences and agreeing to be a part of their child’s life. Parents will want to agree on what is expected of the child at each house. Agreeing upon expectations will ensure that the child feels secure during this transitional period.

Some successful strategies for effective co-parenting often include:

Requiring Consistent Behavior

During a divorce, many children experience emotional turmoil. Your child may lash out by refusing to eat dinner or to complete homework assignments. Your child should be reminded that behaviors that were unacceptable in the past are still not permitted.

Agreeing Upon Family Rules

If your child was not allowed to wear shoes in the house prior to divorce, this should still not be allowed, and this rule should consistently be enforced.

Keeping to a Consistent Routine

Parents should discuss bedtimes, what time the child needs to get up in the morning, and how much television time is allowed each day. A consistent routine will encourage consistent behavior.

Help Children Plan Ahead

If your child is going to be visiting the other parent or caregiver, help with creating a packing list and share the pick-up schedule with your child. This will help your child feel in control, which will reduce the chances of any outbursts or unwanted behavior.

Make the Most of Your Time Together

When you are spending time with your child, minimize distractions or anything that will take away valuable time with your child. Time with your child is limited, so you want to focus on strengthening your relationship, not checking on the football score.

Benefits of a Parenting Plan

A parenting plan will decide what parent a child will live with, when the child sees each parent, and how to care for the needs of your child. Some couples are able to develop a parenting plan on their own, while others will need the court’s assistance.

Sticking to a parenting plan is key to successful co-parenting. This framework will allow a child to get used to modified living arrangements by creating consistency in daily life.

If a couple needs the court’s assistance in developing a parenting plan, until the court order is issued, both parents will have equal rights. A Ventura family law attorney can work with you to develop a parenting plan that works for your family, whether it be in or out of court.

Recently Divorced? Contact a Ventura Family Law Attorney Today

A divorce can rattle your child’s confidence and comfort. If you have recently divorced from your spouse, you may need help developing a parenting plan. Our Ventura family law attorneys care about your family, and we want to help you succeed in co-parenting. Contact us online today or by calling 805-643-5555 to schedule your free consultation.